Law of attraction works. It is a law of nature. I find myself saying that over and over again because I want to reassure people that they are dealing with a valid body of knowledge that explains a principle of the quantum world. But then someone who calls herself a law of attraction teacher posts the following statement, and I want to scream!
She said, “When you make a request to the Universe, be as specific as you can. You’ll be amazed at what transpires!”
This is not at all true, for more reasons than I can elucidate here and mostly what will transpire is nothing. When I see statements like this by supposed law of attraction teachers, it makes me wonder if they actually understand much about law of attraction. Statements like this give law of attraction, and those of us who teach it, a bad name. Being specific just flat out doesn’t work all the time. It is a recipe for frustration.
Consider that being specific sometimes makes people feel depressed. Often times, as people get more specific, their thoughts and beliefs that this can never happen become stronger. Their feelings of unworthiness kick in. This statement doesn’t address that.
Suppose being specific makes a person get into their head about ‘how’ what they want will come about? We who teach law of attraction in ways that work tell you to never think about the how. Wondering how something will come about is an easy way to derail all your efforts.
What about those who don’t know how to be specific because either they don’t know what they want or they can’t imagine it in detail? Does that mean these folks are doomed to never have their desires to manifest? Of course not. There are different and better ways to manifest than specificity.
What about the teachings of Abraham – the leading teachers of law of attraction on the planet today – who say that specificity is almost never required, and when it is, it is only under limited, particular circumstances?
Specificity requires thought – it puts you into your head, planning and thinking. Law of attraction responds to feelings. Where is the feeling of joy, the feeling of having that thing you want? Specificity and feeling can almost be complete opposites. They use different parts of your brain.
Being specific can bring up worry – “what if it doesn’t happen?” Feeling as though you have it only brings up joy. Which would you rather have?
Specificity is a method used by goal setting, success theorists. This is partly why ‘success theory’ doesn’t work for most people. Success theory puts all the burden on the ego mind and completely leaves out Spirit or inner guidance.
Specificity leaves out the grace of the Universe. If you are too specific and too focused, the Universe cannot give you something better.
One last thought, specificity can bring you exactly what you ask for sometimes. But what if you ask for the wrong thing? What if you leave out some qualities that you really want, but you forgot them?
Here’s is a little story, a true story, about one of my law of attraction students. Howard wanted Suzy. He didn’t know her very well at all, but he had a big crush on her. Suzy did not know he existed. I asked Howard: suppose Suzy is married already – do you still want her? Suppose Suzy has 12 children by 12 different men– do you still want her? What if she has drug or alcohol problems – do you still want her? Suppose she has anger issues, or can’t commit to any one? Suppose she hates men? Do you really want Suzy? Or do you want a happy, loving relationship with a woman who is really compatible with you, who is as into you as you are to her? Who shares your values and wants what you want? Who makes you feel good? Which would you rather have? Howard now has created a wonderful relationship with a woman who is not Suzy!
Your comments are welcome. Let me know what you think.