She says, “A great post C – . . . I have placed a zero tolerance on swearing in our home which everyone has agreed to. I want my home to be a peace haven exuding love. This has also included dvds and tv programmes with offensive language in it. Since this ‘ban’ was imposed I have noticed a huge change in the demeanour of the adults I share my home with. A much lighter and uplifting atmosphere prevails and the creativity and motivation is flowing. It starts with us, at home teaching others and being a demonstration of what we want to see in the world.
The next issue I am working on is to have zero tolerance on complaining. Whenever we share meals together we have a gratitude session around the table including children – this is a very humbling experience – food for the soul.
This was one in a bunch of posts of folks talking about having exclusively happy thoughts and exhorting each other to never say a negative word. I had to respond.
Hmmmm . . .I have read all the comments above and I have to say, with all due respect, I’m glad I’m not hanging out with any of you. I want to be real and I want to be free to be myself! People who are self-appointed “positive police” make me want to scream and run!
As an international law of attraction teacher since long before The Secret, (just putting a bit of my credentials in here) I tell you unequivocally that law of attraction is not about putting a happy face on when you are feeling miserable. It is not about denying your real feelings, M -. People sometimes feel angry, cranky, crabby, annoyed and other intense emotions and it is natural, and appropriate, in many situations to feel this way. Law of attraction attracts by how you FEEL, not by what you say. I always tell my students, the universe does not speak English. It is abut how you FEEL. Speaking happy words does not make you feel happy if you aren’t. And speaking happy words only makes you resentful if they are in conflict with what you are really feeling.
Repressed emotions, when unexpressed, ferment and percolate and attract according to their kind. It is so much more effective – and I can’t stress this enough – to cuss, scream and yell if necessary to GET IT OUT! Then and only then can you move toward feeling better. Repressing feelings – like having zero tolerance for negative thoughts or statements – only keeps them in growing and bubbling in the dark so they can erupt later. Brief expressions of negative emotion are therapeutic and do not attract significantly in our lives if they are not held on to. We attract from our dominant emotions (and attitudes, thoughts, beliefs and expectations) – not from brief expressions of anger.
As long as our dominant emotions are positive, we are OK. We don’t need to be 100% positive, 51% is enough to attract our good to us. Followers of Abraham will remember their analogy of the gas tank. If you are upset that your gas gauge is telling you that the tank is empty, putting a happy face sticker over it does not solve the problem . The issue has to be acknowledged and dealt with, or else it gets worse – you find yourself stranded without gas. The gas gauge is an indicator, just as are our emotions. Reading the indicator and acknowledging what it is telling us gets us a lot further than ignoring it.