We are always creating our reality by our thoughts. Energy is always flowing where we give our attention. When we feel we are ‘stuck’, we are unconsciously re-creating the same situation for our selves over and over. It is like a car that is stuck in snow – the wheels are moving, the engine is revving, and yet the car is digging itself in deeper where it is. There is lots of activity going on, just no forward motion.
When we feel ‘stuck’ we are there because we are focused more on the lack of what we want than we are on the having of what we want. We are looking at frustration, and at ‘not yet having’. What we look at is what we get. We are looking at, and fretting about, the situation as it is. That is not where we want to look. We already know we don’t want the situation as it is; we want it to be different. But the only way it can become different is if we ‘live’ in the feeling place of having attained it.
OK, how do we do that? When we look at ‘what is’, we are just spinning our wheels and digging ourselves in deeper where we don’t want to be. We have to look at what we want.
One: Start by thinking about your goal or desire. Let yourself relax into the feeling of having it or experiencing it. If it is more money, how will you feel as you spend it? If it is a relationship, feel yourself smiling at your partner and laughing at something only the two of you find funny. Is it a new job? Feel your pride as your boss tells you how wonderful you are.
Begin to ask yourself how you will feel when all is the way you want it to be? What will you be doing?
Two: Then ask yourself why you want it. What other wonderful things will this lead to? How will your life be better? Spend some time focusing on that. Being in the feeling or with the feeling is the energy that brings it to you. Don’t give any thought to the fact that you don’t have it yet, just think about how it will feel when you do.
Three: Say to yourself, “Wouldn’t it be nice if . . .” and let yourself daydream all kinds of wonderful things for yourself. Say, “Isn’t it wonderful that . . .” and pretend that it has all come to pass exactly the way you want it. This softens the resistance around your desire and lets it begin to enter your world. Don’t worry about the future tense of the words, just concentrate on the feelings you have with these statements. What you are doing here is softening your vibration of ‘not having’. If you find yourself feeling a joyful anticipation, you are doing this right.
Four: Look around you for examples of others who have, or are doing what, you want. If they can do it, so can you. How do you think they are feeling? What are they thinking to have or experience that? See evidence of it happening around you. Notice that the Universe can provide it in many ways to many people. Look for signs of its coming.
Do you look around at others and feel ‘not good enough’? One of the major reasons our manifestations are limited are our feelings of unworthiness. It is our own lack of self love that restricts our joyfull-ness.
Five: Soothe yourself. Talk to yourself as if you are speaking to your inner two year old. Say things like, “Even though I don’t have it yet, I know I’m getting closer,” and “Good things always happen to me,” and “I’m becoming more conscious of the vibration I put out and as I do, I’m creating more of what I want”. Be gentle. Be kind to yourself. Remind yourself that the Universe is always giving, and that good is the natural order of things.
The common thread in all of these exercises is that they focus on the joy of having, doing or being what you want for more than 17 seconds. It takes 17 seconds for an idea to draw a similar idea to it. The longer you can hold your thought on your desires, the faster they will manifest. Focus on the joy. The joy will pull your desires to you.
Copyright 2008 © Lorna Levy All rights reserved. Thanks to Abraham-Hicks for some of the ideas in this article.